Anyway, this is just an alert to say:
(a) For me the challenge continues, and intensifies as the days shorten.
(b) This year I am using the support of Linda, a counsellor working on a contract in TA style.
According to Muriel James in Perspectives in Transactional Analysis (1998, San Francisco; TA Press, p82ff) contracts will
- Involve Mutual Consent bilateral (two-sided)
- Valid consideration (named benefits)
- Competency (ability to carry out the terms)
- Lawful (doesn't include breaking the law)
A TA contract has five questions to be answered:
- What do I want that would enhance my life?
- What specific change do heed to make to get what I want?
- What am I willing to do to effect this change?
- How will others know when I have made this change?
- How might I sabotage myself?
Another question I would like to add
6. How will I reward myself when I have done/achieved this change?
This process will not fully began until next week (Tuesday November 20) but writing this blog, and going over the three artist notebooks of the original EN-JOYING Christmas project represent on the one hand a form of 'preparation' and on the other hand, a salututory insight that for whatever reason, I still identify with many of the feelings and negative ideas from 2012. Maybe Linda will spot a possible cause that I am hiding from myself (discounting)
Meanwhile, I am thinking a little about the wording for the contract that Linda extracted from our conversation, something about making a decision that my Child ego-state will have one enjoyable day on Christmas Day.
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| Light and Darkness at dawn - Nov 2018 |
